Dear Divine:

I can’t seem to regain my sexy self after having my first baby. My husband is so sweet to me, but nothing helps. I don’t have a lot of free time and our budget is limited, so I’m at a loss for what to do. I feel like I’m getting more depressed everyday. How can I get back to my sexy self?

Signed,

Sexy Self

Photography by Devon Kelley

Dear Sexy Self,

Thanks for writing! Let’s start with something that will blow your mind: You are sexy. I don’t need to ever see you or know you personally to be able to say that. Everyone is sexy. Everyone has something inside of themselves that makes them beautiful. You just need to be able to see that and polish it for yourself and for the word to see. Here is an idea for you to try. First, find a mirror that you look at every day. For at least 2 weeks write one positive thing about yourself, (it should be one physical and then one internal). Start off simple- and if you get really ballsy you could even give your husband a different color and have him add to the list. This is a great way to make you see what is beautiful about yourself and reflect on how he sees you. Another low budget idea is to put on your sexiest outfit. This can be anything you feel sexy in- from a white tank top to an evening gown, to your own skin. Have your hubby take some pics and keep them just for you both to cherish. And my last cheap suggestion is chocolate…yes, chocolate. Go buy yourself some Nutella or Hersey syrup and ask him to drizzle where he finds turns him on and then you take a turn drizzling where you find to be a sexy space. This interaction will create a spicy space for both of you.

Hope this helps. Please let me know. Before I forget – mommas are sexy. You gave birth. That is a miracle that you performed with your body and that is absolutely magical. Remember to love your body. You only get one and its yours to do what you want with it.

Love,

Divine