Dear Divine,
I’m a proud 34 year old lesbian and I love my partner of 3 years. So much so, I’ve asked her to marry me! We want to do something fabulous (think glitter, rainbows, everything super happy and loud). The only problem is, most of her family is very conservative and have threatened not to attend if we’re just going to throw a giant “gay bash.” I feel like we have the right to celebrate OUR day– but is it worth it to not have our family attend? What’s more important, a celebration of our special day or having family there- even though we will have to through a conservative bash. I think this is all ridiculous and we should do whatever we want, but my wife to be is torn. We both feel so angry over this kind of control over us. Shouldn’t they just attend our wedding no matter how we celebrate? Can you help us?
-Heartbroken
Dear Heartbroken,
Your wedding day is just that: it is a day for both of you. Yet, I understand wanting your family there. I suggest having a two-part wedding. The first part is the sweet ceremony and in more traditional taste, with a little reception after as in wine and finger food. Then have a second location that is more of gay bash you want it to be. And leave it up to them if they would like to continue the journey with you to the second venue. When you look back you are going to want both. You will want the ones you love there and the experience you long to have. So have it both ways my dear. Good luck and send pictures.
Love and Luck Dear Divine
