I’m super close to my future mother-in-law. In fact, we have lunch almost every week. There’s just one thing that’s been killing me: BOUNDARIES. Whenever I request anything, she cries and freaks out. I have three kids: two with another man and one with my fiancee. Here’s just one example of the boundary issue: I’ve made it clear to everyone that I’m not comfortable with anyone sharing photos of my children on facebook without asking me first. My FMIL makes them her profile photo! I don’t mind the occasional issue: unsolicited parenting advice, comments on my appearance- but sometimes I just need her to back off. Now she wants to take a huge week long camping trip and combine our vacations. I love her but NO WAY! When I tell her kindly to stop something, she cries and withholds our relationship. She says bad things about me when she isn’t getting her way. I know she’s a nice person and my husband says she can be manipulative. How can I handle this?
Super Frustrated in Florida